What memories will we leave behind?
Is it bad if it ends badly? What do we remember?
On the night of the 19th, in a ‘KakaoTalk room’ where baseball stories are mainly discussed, several people who are sincerely committed to the Doosan Bears said this. Occupation: lawyer, businessman, etc. “It’s a shame that it got messed up at the most important time at the end of the season.” “It’s an imbalanced absurdity where there are no people who smile and only those who are angry.” “The proposition that all baseball fans are bound to be angry is the same truth as the proposition that all humans die.”
This is the scene at the end of the Bears’ final game of the year. Where have the moments of cheer gone during the season? The pain of loss seems to be even greater because we ended up in 5th place while aiming for 3rd place at the end of the season. The happiness of Olympic medalists is also similar to research showing that silver medalists who lost in the final are behind bronze medalists who won in the 3rd and 4th place match.
It is said that our brain organizes what we experience and what we remember differently. What happens if you go to a music performance and enjoy it, but when it gets to an important climax, someone in the back seat coughs loudly? According to psychologists, people’s memories of those performances are often disappointing. Even if it was a moving experience for 90% of the performance, negative experiences at specific moments are more memorable.메이저사이트
Actually, I have some similar, sad memories. One time I was watching a movie. I held my breath and concentrated, but suddenly the lights turned on brightly. The audience murmured, and even though some time had passed, it was still the same, so much so that someone even shouted. Since the movie was still playing, the audience’s shouting was also a disruption. It was chaos. Now, I don’t remember what movie I saw, but it remains as an annoying situation and a day when I ruined an outing with my family.
Another memory is from a business trip abroad for over ten years. She was responsible for presenting the company’s innovation case at an international conference in Barcelona, Spain. The people on stage were the company’s owner family, and I prepared materials, hosted the event, and performed it. We went well until the last rehearsal. But in real life, the lights on the stage go out. A problem occurred while the spotlight was on the presenter. It soon became normal. After the presentation was over, there was a great response from attendees. However, the person who presented focused on the lights going out and asked, “Why did that happen?” By my standards, it seemed like a very brief happening, but the person presenting seemed to have been disappointed after expecting a perfect presentation. Of course, I was surprised, but he and I, who were very proud of the entire presentation process, had different memories of the same event.
It is said that the mechanisms of memory depend on the most powerful and intense situations and emotions. This is what Daniel Kahneman, winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics (2002), said. Kahneman’s theory is that the human brain remembers the most painful (or happiest) moments and the last moments. This can also apply to medalist stories. In other words, memory compactly organizes all experiences centered on a specific experience. I don’t remember the entire experience, as each moment comes together and accumulates over time. The Nobel Prize winner explains that the operation of memory is to select around powerful experiences and connect those pieces to create a story. And the story is dramatized and even parts that are not true are added. It is said that such memories act like a lens for thinking when necessary, influencing how we judge other similar events in the future.
We want to make rational decisions, but it’s easy to forget that we are in fact greatly influenced by the last moments or specific scenes. The moment the team you support is eliminated, you feel pain and anger, but at the same time, you have to look at it from various angles, what has been accomplished during the season and what more will be accomplished in the future. If you only focus on the moment, you often end up spending your energy criticizing people. On the other hand, as in the title of Shakespeare’s play, ‘All’s well that ends well’, sometimes people forget about the problems that have surfaced and move on because the results are good. Is it only for sports?
Next week we move into November. It is also time to finish work for those working at companies, organizations, or schools. When organizing this year, let’s take our time and think about what specific moments, emotions, and memories we are focused on. What kind of memory will you leave behind this year?
Korea Coach Association certified coach Kim Jong-moon coachjmoon Gmail
Kim Jong-moon is a former reporter for the JoongAng Ilbo and served as the front office for the NC Dinos baseball team from 2011 to 2021. At the end of 2018, he took over as general manager of the ‘last place’ team and led it to its first championship two years later. He is currently a Korea Coach Association Certified Coach (KPC).